Lilia Gonzalez-Joly, LMFT
Compassionate therapist for relationship and life concerns
Details
| Name | Lilia Gonzalez-Joly |
|---|---|
| Credentials | LMFT |
| Based in | California |
| Licensed in | California |
| Session format | Online |
| Languages | English, Spanish |
| Years in practice | 16 |
About Lilia
Lilia Gonzalez-Joly is a California licensed marriage and family therapist with 16 years of clinical experience. She guides people through relationship struggles, family conflict, trauma and abuse, and questions about career and purpose. Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
She focuses on building a calm, nonjudgmental space where clients can speak openly. Conversations look at what matters to the person, and what gets in the way of change. Lilia aims to help people notice patterns and try different ways of responding.
Background and approach
Her work draws on Narrative Therapy and attachment ideas to understand relationship patterns. She also uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and cognitive approaches to help people reconnect with values and manage upsetting thoughts. Client-centered skills shape how sessions feel - collaborative and respectful.
Many clients come with worries about communication, guilt and shame, or low self-esteem. Others bring trauma, questions about life purpose, or the wish to forgive and move forward. Sessions typically include talk, reflection, and practical steps to practice between meetings.
Lilia supports people who want a compassionate guide while they try new ways of relating and living. She helps set clear goals and checks in on progress. The aim is steady, manageable change rather than quick fixes.
What this therapist works with
Her listing names Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse among the things Lilia works with, alongside the areas below.
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Communication problems
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Life purpose
- Self-love
Approaches listed
- Narrative Therapy: Named in her listing among her approaches.
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Attachment-Based Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Client-Centered Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT): Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Existential Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Gottman Method: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Jungian Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Mindfulness Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Motivational Interviewing: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Psychodynamic Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Solution-Focused Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Trauma-Focused Therapy: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Internal Family Systems: Listed by Lilia among the ways she works.
- Training stated: This directory copies the approaches a therapist names and does not check training records. Ask Lilia directly how much of the work is narrative and what a session usually looks like.
Narrative Therapy in this listing
Narrative Therapy appears in this therapist's own list of approaches. That tells you it is part of how she works. It does not tell you how much of a session it shapes, and this directory does not check or rate training.
If a narrative approach is what you are looking for, it is worth asking Lilia directly how she uses it and what a session usually looks like.
Online session options
Therapeutic approaches that work online
Narrative Therapy helps people tell and reshape the stories they carry about themselves and their relationships; it can clarify what a person wants and open new possibilities. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, focuses on identifying personal values and taking small committed actions toward them while learning to live with difficult thoughts and feelings. Attachment-Based ideas look at how early relationship patterns influence current close relationships and help people try new ways of relating.Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with the client to choose what fits best based on goals, preferences, and what shows up in sessions. Plans can change over time as needs shift and progress is noticed.
Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to give practical flexibility. Video lets people read facial cues and go deeper in conversation, phone calls can be easier when bandwidth is limited, chat can be useful for quick check-ins, and messaging supports shorter ongoing contact between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week and try different formats to see what feels most helpful.
Common questions about this listing
What kinds of concerns does she help with?
She helps people with relationship issues, family conflict, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, and career questions. Additional focuses include communication problems, forgiveness, guilt and shame, life purpose, and self-love.
What is her approach to therapy?
Her style is collaborative and nonjudgmental, using Narrative ideas to reframe stories and ACT and CBT tools to change behavior. Sessions are practical and focused on what the client wants to achieve.
How much experience does she have?
She has 16 years of professional experience working with adults on relationship and personal issues. That experience informs a steady, relational approach to sessions.
What are her credentials and where is she located?
She holds a California licensed marriage and family therapist credential, listed as LMFT, and practices in California.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats does she use?
She meets with people over video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. These formats allow flexible ways to connect based on needs and schedule.
How do costs and payment work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability and uses a subscription model for sessions. The subscription can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button and completing a short matching questionnaire. Then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.
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