Lani Stoner, LMFT
Experienced therapist who listens and guides
Details
| Name | Lani Stoner |
|---|---|
| Credentials | LMFT |
| Based in | California |
| Licensed in | California |
| Session format | Online |
| Languages | English |
| Years in practice | 27 |
About Lani
Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with twenty-seven years of experience in the mental health field. She focuses on helping people who are dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship strain, addiction, and life transitions. Her style is active and practical, aimed at helping people find clearer steps forward.
She speaks English and practices in California. She began working in mental health after earning a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology and has spent decades in county and agency settings.
Background and approach
Much of her early career involved work with adults experiencing chronic mental illness, and later she shifted into independent practice that included children, adolescents, and adults. That background informs a flexible approach to both short-term and longer-term work. Lani uses a mix of approaches, including Narrative Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mindfulness, and Solution-Focused techniques.
In sessions she helps people tell and reframe their stories, notice unhelpful thought patterns, and set concrete goals for change. She uses interventions that match the person’s needs rather than one fixed method. She has experience supporting people who face trauma or abuse, caregiving stress, chronic pain or illness, and fertility or family-of-origin concerns.
Lani has also provided work related to LGBTQ+ identities and has volunteered with military and veteran communities in online roles. Her practice includes video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. To begin, a person completes a short matching questionnaire and schedules sessions through the platform.
What this therapist works with
Her listing names Stress, Anxiety, Relationship issues, Grief among the things Lani works with, alongside the areas below.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Depression
- Coping with life changes
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Bipolar disorder
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Blended family issues
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Communication problems
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Traumatic brain injury
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches listed
- Narrative Therapy: Named in her listing among her approaches.
- Client-Centered Therapy: Listed by Lani among the ways she works.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Listed by Lani among the ways she works.
- Mindfulness Therapy: Listed by Lani among the ways she works.
- Solution-Focused Therapy: Listed by Lani among the ways she works.
- Training stated: This directory copies the approaches a therapist names and does not check training records. Ask Lani directly how much of the work is narrative and what a session usually looks like.
Narrative Therapy in this listing
Narrative Therapy appears in this therapist's own list of approaches. That tells you it is part of how she works. It does not tell you how much of a session it shapes, and this directory does not check or rate training.
If a narrative approach is what you are looking for, it is worth asking Lani directly how she uses it and what a session usually looks like.
Online session options
How narrative and practical approaches work online
Online sessions with Lani commonly draw on Narrative Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Narrative Therapy helps people separate themselves from difficult stories and rewrite how they understand their problems, which can ease feelings tied to identity and relationships. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy focuses on identifying unhelpful thoughts and testing small changes in behavior to reduce symptoms like anxiety or low mood.She also uses Client-Centered techniques that emphasize listening, empathy, and working at the client’s pace. Together these approaches are chosen collaboratively. The therapist and client decide which methods fit the person’s goals and preferences, and they adjust the plan as progress is made.
Online formats available include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is useful for a face-to-face conversation and visual cues. Phone sessions can fit a busy day or lower bandwidth situations. Live chat and text messaging work well for brief check-ins, ongoing support between sessions, or when typing feels easier than speaking. These options make it easier to work on stress, relationships, trauma recovery, and life transitions from different locations and schedules.
Common questions about this listing
What kinds of problems does Lani help people with?
She works with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, relationship strain, addictions, parenting and related concerns listed in her specialties.
What is her general therapy style like?
Her style is active and practical. She uses collaborative, goal-oriented work that combines storytelling, thought work, mindfulness, and solution-focused techniques.
How long has she been practicing?
She has twenty-seven years of clinical experience and has worked in county agencies and independent practice since completing her graduate training.
Where is she licensed and practicing?
She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist licensed in California and practices there.
Which languages are supported for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the U.S. work with her?
She does not accept international clients at this time.
What session formats does she use?
She offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to fit different needs and schedules.
How are costs and getting started handled?
Cost varies by location and therapist availability and uses a subscription that can be canceled at any time. To start, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule based on availability.
Contacting this therapist
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