Toby Faye Mailman, LCSW
Compassionate guidance for everyday challenges
Details
| Name | Toby Faye Mailman |
|---|---|
| Credentials | LCSW |
| Based in | New York |
| Licensed in | New York |
| Session format | Online |
| Languages | English, Spanish |
| Years in practice | 25 |
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a licensed clinical social worker in New York who helps people facing stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, and parenting strain. She focuses on practical steps and supports people as they sort through difficult feelings and life changes. Toby speaks English and Spanish and draws on 25 years of experience working with adults.
Toby approaches therapy as a collaborative process. She aims to build trust first, then help people identify strengths they already have.
Background and approach
Sessions are often weekly or every other week to keep momentum and make steady progress. She uses Narrative ideas to help people reframe the stories they tell about themselves. She also draws on attachment-based and client-centered ways of working to pay attention to relationships and to center the person in the room.
Cognitive Behavioral techniques and DBT skills are used when practical skills can reduce distress. Toby adapts methods to fit each person’s needs rather than following a single formula. That can mean mixing approaches over time, trying a skill-focused session one week and a reflective, story-focused session the next.
She treats cultural background and identity as important context for therapy. Her background includes a Master of Social Work from New York University and a long practice history since 2001. People who come to her often want help with coping, relationships, work stress, caregiver strain, chronic illness, addiction-related concerns, and recovery after loss or violence.
Toby describes her role as a coach and guide who helps people discover resources inside themselves and develop new ways of managing life’s challenges.
What this therapist works with
Her listing names Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Self esteem among the things Toby works with, alongside the areas below.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Self esteem
- Depression
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Compassion fatigue
- Abandonment
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
Approaches listed
- Narrative Therapy: Named in her listing among her approaches.
- Attachment-Based Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Client-Centered Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT): Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Existential Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Mindfulness Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Motivational Interviewing: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Psychodynamic Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Solution-Focused Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Trauma-Focused Therapy: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Internal Family Systems: Listed by Toby among the ways she works.
- Training stated: This directory copies the approaches a therapist names and does not check training records. Ask Toby directly how much of the work is narrative and what a session usually looks like.
Narrative Therapy in this listing
Narrative Therapy appears in this therapist's own list of approaches. That tells you it is part of how she works. It does not tell you how much of a session it shapes, and this directory does not check or rate training.
If a narrative approach is what you are looking for, it is worth asking Toby directly how she uses it and what a session usually looks like.
Online session options
How Toby’s Approaches Work Online
Toby draws on Narrative Therapy to help people rewrite the stories that shape their lives, making space to see problems as separate from identity and to find new meanings. Attachment-Based Therapy helps when relationships or patterns of relating cause pain by focusing on emotional bonds and how to create safer connections. Client-Centered Therapy keeps the conversation focused on the person’s experience, with the therapist listening closely and following the client’s pace.Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. Toby will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what feels most useful. She may suggest trying one method for a few sessions and then adjusting based on what helps most.
Online formats offer practical flexibility. Video calls let people work face-to-face when schedules allow, phone sessions can fit a quick check-in or lower bandwidth needs, and live chat or text-based messaging work for short updates, skill practice, or when typing feels easier. These options make it simpler to fit therapy into busy days and to keep connections between sessions.
Common questions about this listing
What concerns does Toby address?
She helps people with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma and abuse, grief, parenting strain, relationship issues, anger, career concerns, compassion fatigue, and coping with life changes.
How would you describe her therapy style?
Her style is collaborative and coach-like. She builds trust, highlights strengths, and adapts methods to each person's needs.
How much experience does she have?
Toby has practiced since 2001, giving her 25 years of experience working with individual adults in clinical settings.
What are her credentials and location?
She holds the LCSW credential and is licensed in New York. Her professional training includes a social work degree from New York University.
In which languages can sessions be held?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats does she use?
She offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to fit different schedules and needs.
How is cost handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability. Sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
What is the first step to begin?
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